It’s ‘funny’ (NOT) people say such things with a straight face, like seriously?
They may even say them with the best of intent, but, like seriously?
Some think they know. They don’t
Some think they’re being helpful. They’re not.
I have a niece, she has a brain condition, that has required surgeries and she works.
I too have a brain condition which has required surgeries and I can’t work. She has a partner who can be a bit of a chauvinistic @#$%& and is forever making snide little comments.
I was having a BAD day with pain, with a killer headache. Her partner came out with “she can, so why can’t you” line. This bloke has 100kg on me but I truly wanted to snot him, smack him right in the mouth, arrogant sod. So I bite my tongue (hard) and walk away.
A month later he’s off of work due to gout, so I use his own line back on him “she can, so why can’t you”. You could see the temperature rising, he’s gone all red in the face with rage. “It’s not nice is it Mike, remember last month, you wanted to give me hell for something I have no control over. Well back at you mate. Remember this cos I’ll be reminding you again the next time you want to make a smartarse comment regarding something you have no clue about”
Surprise, surprise, he hasn’t made a comment since.
Now, this is an example of ‘enough is enough’ and I’d had enough of his opinions, but I must admit I’ve lost count of how often I’ve just had to smile, nod and walk away before I say (or do) the wrong thing due to ignorant/arrogant people. For those of us with invisible/rare conditions it truly is NOT uncommon.
Merl from the Moderator Support Team.